Avoiding Relationship Problems

If you think that the best way to make a man feel closer and more involved with you is by becoming more and more emotionally involved with him, being more caring and giving then you do not understand what I’m saying!

Check out the article on how to get a guy to like you and how to attract a man to find out about the traits that naturally attractive women have.

After reading these articles you will understand what makes a man’s mind attracted to a woman… what creates attraction and a desire to have a long term relationship with you.

You Don’t Have To Be Warm And Cuddly All The Time

To be able to create and maintain attraction and excitement in the relationship is not achieve by doing what you need to achieve that. This is being a selfish and simplistic in the way you look at love. Attraction and love is felt by men and women but it’s not triggered in the same way for both sexes, there are some nuances. When you make the mistake of thinking that you have to give him what you desire will work to make him more attracted to you its selfish and it won’t work.

Find Out What He Really Wants

The key is to find out what other people really want and give it to them without compromising yourself, as opposed to offering them what you suppose they want. The difference is in the details and you will become much more attractive in their eyes. This applies to relationships and to all other areas life.

Don’t Be Selfish

Now let’s look at an example of giving something he really wants or imposing something that you would like him to want. This is a very important aspect in relationships and I first read about it in Christian Carter’s book called Catch Him and Keep Him. Christian Carter calls this “Selfish Love” and you avoiding this will make you and your partner happier.

Selfish love when you give to other people what makes you happy. This can happen because you just presuppose that what makes you happy makes everyone happy or because you can’t identify what makes another person happy and give them what makes you happy.

So you have to kind of step out of yourself and then your entire relationship will become easier and more enjoyable. You want your communication, behavior and emotions to trigger feelings and reactions in HIM. This is what the women that are naturally good with men do. It doesn’t come from female logic!

Let’s check out a practical example of how this can go wrong and you it can be corrected.

Let’s say have been dating with a great guy and he is taking you to a perfect weekend getaway. You get happy and excited because you are thinking about the nice things you will do during the weekend. Nice romantic stuff and some cool adventures that will be a lot of fun and grow your connection with him. You are really happy to go!

Then when you go on your getaway all your boyfriend has planned is guy stuff. So you sit on the couch, watch football, eat fast food, drink beer and watch porn. Would you have a lot of fun? Would this make you more attracted to him? Would you think that you guys have a great connection and feel an uncontrollable urge to marry him and settle down with him?

This example may be a little bit extreme and ridiculous but it’s like that so you get the point. Many women give this type of selfish love to men and expect it to do wonders. The same applies to the favors women do for men… sharing feelings, nurturing him, cooking, cleaning or shopping; they are all nice things to do but they don’t really do anything to get him more attracted or involved with you. A woman does these things because she would like someone else to do these things for her!