Relationship Advice for Women

After talking to a many single men (and being one) I know that the majority of men are looking for a nice woman to have a healthy and happy relationship with.

Even the guys that act like players come to a stage that they want to stop playing around and want to find a woman to have a fulfilling relationship with.

But here is the problem… If the guy doesn’t know what he wants and if he doesn’t want to settle down and have a committed relationship, he won’t know how to maintain a healthy and happy relationship with you.

The most important relationship advice that a woman needs to know to make a relationship last is that most men don’t know what to do in order to develop a strong and intimate relationship. They just go on without any direction or strategy.

Relationships… Men Are Clueless!

Not all men are like this but most of the guys are like that, it’s a fact. When we want to figure out what we want with women we are hopeless. There are also guys that can’t settle down with the most perfect woman, even if they get along great.

Women are the opposite because they have an innate capability to find confidence and happiness in a relationship. This is a big difference between sexes and its one of the polarities between men and women.

This means that a woman has to take the responsibility to make the relationship go forward so that everything goes forward in a comfortable and smooth way. Like I talked about in these are traits of attractive women, read more about it in how to attract a man.

Knowing when the right time is to move forward and what mistakes to avoid is your job as the woman that is in the relationship. If you let the guy steer the relationship then it’s like moving in quicksand… the more you try to move, the deeper you get stuck.

If you are in love with a guy and he doesn’t know how to communicate what he wants in the relationship you are going to have to take the lead. This is not an optional step… you have to because if you don’t the relationship will be the way he wants it, leaving your interests in second place. Most men take the easiest path, the one that takes the least commitment possible, and that is not a good foundation for a healthy relationship.

Easy On The Pressure!

For you to do the right thing you need to understand an important detail about male psychology. When you appear eager or want to jump in a relationship to early, most guys think you are pressuring them and going too fast. This will make him pull away and want his distance. Dealing with this pressure the right way is crucial if you want to get into a relationship without pressuring him… read the article on how to get a guy to like you for more details!

I am sure you have seen this before with guys that you have dated or from stories your girlfriends told you. A common situation is that a woman gets to know the guy well after dating him for a few weeks or a couple of months. This makes her feel like she has a real chance with him for a long term relationship or to get married to the man.

When the woman starts acting on these feelings and communicates it to him in a direct or (in a not so) indirect way that she wants this type of commitment. Manny times this is a big problem for the guy because the woman is assuming incorrectly that he also wants to go the relationship to go further so soon. Doing this too early will kill attraction and make the guy move away because he fears the commitment.

Here are some tips on how you can communicate to a man that you want a long term relationships without pushing him away from you. It is important to understand a man’s dating psychology. If the guy you are dating is not pushing for a serious relationship that means he is just enjoying the time he spends with you and getting to know you better. At this time most guys haven’t thought if they want a long term commitment or not.

Real Commitment?

When you are in doubt if he wants a serious relationship or not it is best a big advantage to assume that he is still deciding. In my opinion this is the most important tip that you can get to be able to get into a relationship with a guy, without pressuring him into something that he is not ready for. Even if he wants it down the line, the fact that you are pressuring can make him uncomfortable and kill attraction and comfort.

When you don’t do this you give space and it will make him want to be closer to you. This may sound counter intuitive but it’s this relaxed relationship that doesn’t pressure him into commitment (something that almost all women do) that will motivate him to be closer and more attracted to you.

Why men are this way is a mystery. That is just the way it is. You know that people always want what they can’t have, and they don’t want things that just fall into their lap or that are pressured into their lap.

After telling you that I feel obliged to tell you that you should not accept it when men are distant, don’t call, flake, etc. When that happens a few weeks after meeting him you are dealing with an immature man. To know how to deal with this read the next article on how to solve relationship problems.